ADHD Rage in Adults: Why Anger Goes From 0 to 100 (And Why the Shame Comes After)
You can't remember what started it. You remember exactly what you said. ADHD rage arrives at full volume with no build-up, and the shame afterward lasts longer than the anger did. This post explains why the fuse is so short, why "just count to ten" fails adults with ADHD, and seven moves that change the pattern, written for the person who yelled and the partner who searched this at midnight.
ADHD and Relationships: How to Show the Love You Feel
Your partner fills your gas tank without being asked. You bought the perfect birthday card in March — it's still in your bag. You love your people fiercely, and almost none of it makes it out of your head where they can see it. Here's why ADHD breaks the love-to-action pipeline, and 8 ways to show the love you actually feel.
RSD in Women with ADHD: Why Criticism Feels Like Physical Pain
You organized the dinner, introduced two friends, and by the drive home decided they don't need you anymore. That spiral has a name. Rejection sensitive dysphoria is common in women with ADHD, and the pain behind it is real. Here's why it feels physical, what it does to friendships, and the ACT-based approach we use at Brilla to interrupt it.
💔 ADHD & Relationships: Part 1: The Self-Trust Crisis and the Value-Action Gap
If you have ADHD, you are likely living in the Value-Action Gap: the frustrating distance between the life you want to lead (your values) and the actions you actually take.
You know you value health, so you intend to exercise. But when the time comes, an invisible wall of executive function friction stops you. The task is avoided, and the internal criticism begins: "I knew I couldn't trust myself. I am unreliable."
This is not a failure of willpower; it is a breakdown of self-trust fueled by a blindness to valid Executive Functioning (EF) barriers.
At Brilla Counseling Services, we don't treat this with generic tips. We use a specialized approach rooted in ACT to:
Name the Barrier: Shift the struggle from a character flaw to a manageable neurological friction.
Define Micro-Actions: Create tiny, achievable, values-aligned actions that re-establish self-trust through consistent, undeniable success.
Ready to stop breaking promises to yourself? Read the full post on how to close the Value-Action Gap and build self-trust again.
— Brilla Counseling Services, Sacramento & Online CA