💔 ADHD & Relationships: Part 1: The Self-Trust Crisis and the Value-Action Gap
If you have ADHD, you are likely living in the Value-Action Gap: the frustrating distance between the life you want to lead (your values) and the actions you actually take.
You know you value health, so you intend to exercise. But when the time comes, an invisible wall of executive function friction stops you. The task is avoided, and the internal criticism begins: "I knew I couldn't trust myself. I am unreliable."
This is not a failure of willpower; it is a breakdown of self-trust fueled by a blindness to valid Executive Functioning (EF) barriers.
At Brilla Counseling Services, we don't treat this with generic tips. We use a specialized approach rooted in ACT to:
Name the Barrier: Shift the struggle from a character flaw to a manageable neurological friction.
Define Micro-Actions: Create tiny, achievable, values-aligned actions that re-establish self-trust through consistent, undeniable success.
Ready to stop breaking promises to yourself? Read the full post on how to close the Value-Action Gap and build self-trust again.
— Brilla Counseling Services, Sacramento & Online CA