What Is ADHD Masking?

ADHD masking is the ongoing effort to hide or compensate for ADHD traits so other people never see them, through constant self-monitoring, rehearsing, over-preparing, and copying what looks normal. It is especially common in women and late-diagnosed adults, and it carries a real cost in energy, identity, and burnout.

Also called: camouflaging, high-masking ADHD, impression management. Related to: ADHD burnout, late diagnosis, high-functioning ADHD, unmasking.

Why it happens: Masking usually develops early, as a reasonable response to years of criticism for traits a child could not change. Over time the compensating becomes automatic, which is part of why so many women are diagnosed late: the performance was good enough to hide the ADHD from teachers, employers, and sometimes from the person doing the masking.

What it looks like: You triple-check the email, rehearse the phone call, arrive early out of fear rather than habit, and laugh at the right moments in the meeting while privately monitoring your own face. Colleagues call you so organized. You go home and cannot speak for an hour.

Reviewed by Lauren Dibble, LMFT (License #123427), Brilla Counseling, Sacramento, California.

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